The Importance of Listening
As I devote time this summer to meeting with families, I am reminded of the importance of taking time to develop and build relationships with both families and students. A quote from Theo of Golden by Allen Levi has stayed with me:
“Did you look? I mean really look? Not glance. Not a quick peek. I mean look?”
The character poses this question as a reminder that truly seeing someone is foundational to deep listening. When we enter conversations with assumptions—or focus too quickly on solving a problem—we miss the opportunity to genuinely understand the person in front of us.
Especially in our work with faculty, families, and students, listening is not just about responding; it is about presence, curiosity, and restraint.
As I reflect on the conversations I have had this summer, I am reminded that some of the most meaningful moments begin not with answers, but with attentive listening. Taking the time to truly look and listen allows stories to unfold, trust to grow, and relationships to deepen—creating a foundation for all of the conversations and learning that follow.
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Chestnut Hill, MA 02467
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Chestnut Hill, MA 02467
617-566-7462
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